In every group, there has to be a person that is the crying post. You know, when something goes wrong, they seek the shoulder. If there is a dispute between cliche members, you are the mediator. I know, because I am that person.
I really think that people have a capacity limit when it comes to the suffering of others. Some people have no time or patience for other people's problems. They are really wrapped up in their own thing, which is cool. Some people can't take the hurt or pain of others, and therefore exclude themselves. Then, there are the listeners. We are a frequent bunch, because we would rather dwell on other people's problems because we can't solve our own.
For instance:
I have a friend that lives in the states, named _______. He is jonsing for this chick, and she is giving him the run around. Out of the wide world, he asks me for advice. Wondering if he should be aggressive or if he should back off, yada yada. What makes me a good person to ask these things? I am not there, to see it all, and I know little about dating girls. But, he trusts me, and I suppose that is the real reason.
In my little piece of the world, the Break Up Chain is starting. All the couples, which I had cursed from afar since I was single, and still am, are breaking up. And all sides are rushing to me. Now, the pressure is on to be unbiased and dole out perfectly good common sense stuff, but with six people coming to you, it gets hard. " This person said this, this person says that.." and the worst part is that the relationships could all be saved. Communication issues are usually the root, and no one wants to talk about the bad, right?
The most frustrating thing is that, I'm so good at the advice thing, why can't I solve my own love issues?
A teacher in university once told me that " The worst person you can go to about a problem is yourself."
It rings true to me.
Now, I'm off to solve another problem....jsut call me Problem Man!